Yes, a man really can have low libido. In fact, it is estimated that 1 out of 7 men experience a low libido at some point in their lives.
Why would a man have low libido?
Men can experience a decrease or absence of libido for the same types of reasons that women do: stress, fatigue, relationship issues, sexual shame or guilt, because of their partner’s sexual problems, or as a result of their own sexual problems. Yet because our society views this as impossible – because men are supposed to be ready and willing to have sex any chance they get, it is even more difficult for men to take the step to get help to resolve the libido problem. There is a lot of embarrassment and shame that can stop a man in his tracks – and stay stuck in this miserable situation.
Men want to be close to their partners
This may surprise you, but I see men who lose their libidos because they don’t feel connected to their partners, or are angry at them. While the stereotype exists of the macho stud who will have sex with anyone and under any circumstances is true in some cases, the men I see in my office want a loving sexual relationship with their partners. They want closeness and sexual satisfaction.
If a man has a few episodes of losing his erection or not having an orgasm while making love, this can often cause a decreased libido. This is because he may feel so “unmanly” each time this happens, that he would rather shut down than face that possibility again. And so often after an episode of erectile dysfunction, a man will get anxious about it happening again, which can then create the very problem he fears.
Help for a man’s low libido is available
It can take courage to see a sex therapist as a man with low libido, but there is a way out of the problem – through understanding the causes, doing structured exercises with your partner at home which take the pressure off, and removing any barriers to desire in the relationship itself.
If you are in a relationship with a man with low libido, encourage him to work on this with a Certified Sex Therapist. Let him know he is not alone – 1 out of 7 is quite a striking statistic. Go with him to a session if that makes it easier for him to get started, and be open to the possibility that you may have contributed, inadvertently, to the problem.
If you or your partner is struggling with low libido – get help
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