If you are in a sexless relationship where your male partner doesn’t want sex, you and your partner may be dealing with a lot of shame and embarrassment about it. This is because our society expects men to be turned on and ready to go. So, when it’s a guy experiencing low libido, both partners often experience extra stress and pressure.
Having a low libido can make men feel insecure, anxious, embarrassed, and depressed. It’s not easy for the guy’s partner either. Many women feel they should be doing something to fix the situation. In most cases, the partner can’t address the root cause of low libido – usually rooted in physical, emotional, or hormonal issues.
What are the causes of low libido in men?
The most frequent cause of low libido in men is having a sexual dysfunction such as Erectile Dysfunction, or Early Ejaculation. Both of these problems can result in lowered sexual self-confidence and libido.
A partner’s response to these difficulties can also make the problem worse. This is why I often have the couple come in to address the problem. Even if the problem began as one partner’s problem, it always becomes a couple’s problem. I can help you learn how to be a team, working together to solve the problem.
Whatever the reasons, it is important to remember that no one is at fault. In therapy, we will work together to improve your relationship without assigning blame.
In her article in the New York Times, gynecologist and columnist Dr. Jen Gunter stresses that
Sexuality and relationships are complex, and there are no easy answers. It’s not good or bad to have a high, a medium or a low libido. You like what you like, but if you don’t speak up about what you want, you can’t expect the other person to know.
Sex therapy with Lauren Jordan
I have extensive experience as a Certified Sex Therapist, and I know how to guide couples in creating the intimacy and great sex that both of you want. In a non-judgmental, open environment, we can work together to give your relationship a boost.
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If you or your partner is struggling with a low sex drive, reach out to Certified Sex Therapist Lauren Jordan, LCSW, CST for treatment in Dallas, Texas. Call now to make an appointment, or just fill out the contact information and click Send.Please like and share this post!