Sex Therapy and Couples Therapy
I offer sex therapy for both men and women, to help you restore your sexual desire and improve your emotional and sexual intimacy. I will guide you through a process of “detective work” to determine what the cause (or causes) are for your low libido or other sexual concerns. From there I will give you personalized sexuality education and homework exercises, designed to get you back on track for a rewarding sex life. Depending on what the particular set of causes are for you, I could recommend couples or individual sex therapy sessions.
I work with many couples in more general therapy addressing a variety of relationship issues: conflict resolution, intimacy and sex, parenting differences, handling money. Any non-sexual issue in a relationship that is not resolved can become a sexual issue – affecting your sex drive and sexual functioning.
One important distinction between couples therapy and sex therapy is that couples therapy done by general marital therapists is far less focused on sex. Marriage and Family Therapists have excellent training in general couples therapy, but often have extremely little training in sex therapy techniques and human sexuality. Usually, a general couples therapist will approach a couple’s sexual problem by working to improve the issues that may interfere with the couples’ sexual life indirectly, such as poor communication or lack of conflict resolution skills. Research shows this is simply not enough in most cases to restore a woman’s desire or improve a man’s early ejaculation. I have heard from clients who saw general marital therapists in an attempt to solve a sexual problem say that their therapist blushed when they brought up the sexual issue. Obviously, if your therapist is embarrassed to talk about it, she won’t be able to help you. For a full post on the importance of seeing a sex therapist for a sexual problem, see I Wish We Had Seen a Sex Therapist.
Be assured that absolutely none of my work involves any physical touch of my clients, and that no sensual or sexual activity ever takes place in my sessions. As a Certified Sex Therapist, I follow all of the ethical guidelines from AASECT for sex therapists.