LOCKDOWN OF MY MIND

October 27, 2010

“I’m just not a sexual person” “I just never think about sex” “I have no desire for sex – and I mean none at all” “I don’t ever fantasize, much less masturbate” This what women tell me about themselves when they come to see me for help with learning to have orgasms, or improving their […]

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HOW AROUSED ARE YOU?

October 6, 2010

It may surprise you to hear this, but an amazingly high number of people are not aroused during sex.  For many men and women, being able to relax into a sexual experience is a rare occurrence.  Women often need more “transition time” – to shed their other roles and responsibilities and shift into being a […]

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I WANT TO LAST LONGER

August 4, 2010

Early Ejaculation is the most common complaint for men in sex therapy.  A male client might tell me “I want to last longer during intercourse – I seem to only last a minute or so.”    While I also see some men who think that they aren’t lasting long enough, when they are lasting in the […]

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WHEN YOUR MAN DOESN’T WANT SEX

June 15, 2010

When it is the male partner who has no sex drive in the marriage, there are some key differences in how the lack of sexual frequency affects a couple.  Because our societal myth is that  men as “want sex all the time,” if your husband doesn’t want sex, the first thing you are likely to […]

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NOW YOU CAN MAKE YOUR APPOINTMENT ONLINE

May 21, 2010

Its official, you can now make your own appointment online!  I’m happy to offer this option for all of you busy people, who don’t necessarily have time to reach me by phone.  Simply go to the Appointments tab, and click below on Make Your Appt. Online.  You will be taken to a private page where […]

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SEXUAL CRITICISM & LOW LIBIDO

May 13, 2010

Has a sexual partner ever said something to you in bed that crushed you? If so, you are not alone – and it could be a factor in your low libido or erection difficulties, or even your ability to reach orgasm.  Think about how hard it is for most people to take even sensitively-delivered “feedback” […]

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Take the BYLL’s Libido Quiz!

April 22, 2010

Want to know more about low libido, what causes it and what factors are associated with it?  BYLL has put together a very short quiz that will help you understand low libido issues more clearly and will give you insight into this condition. Take the quiz here

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SUMMER GROUPS & CLASSES

April 15, 2010

ORGASM 101:  LEARNING HOW TO HAVE ORGASMS This class will be limited to 8 women, so that a comfortable environment can be created to talk about this very common concern for women.  We will use a wonderful book as our text, and you will have some homework assignments – that I hope will even be […]

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ONLINE SCHEDULING: COMING SOON

March 18, 2010

I will be offering online scheduling very soon!  This should make it much easier for you to make an appointment with me.  Instead of trading voicemail, or email messages, you can access the scheduler via this site – and very quickly book your own appointment.  I’m excited about this new service.  Of course, you can […]

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LOW LIBIDO & PAINFUL SEX

March 16, 2010

For some women, a low libido comes about because sex is physically painful.  This problem is called Dyspareunia, and it seems that no one talks about it.  A related problem is when penetration is very difficult, or even impossible, and it is called Vaginismus.  It seems obvious that if sex is painful, or it takes […]

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