1. How does talking about sex help me with my sexual problems?
First, talking about sex with me helps you get more comfortable talking about sex with your partner. It is a way to practice what many think “should” be natural, but doesn’t feel quite that way. Many of my clients tell me that no one talked about sex in their families when they were growing up. Not talking about it can convey a message: sex is dirty.
Second, you may have unrealistic ideas about sex or just plain misconceptions that you are not aware of. Through talking with me, these things can come to light. Think of it as very personalized sex education - where you can ask ANY question without fear of being judged.
2. I’m afraid of hurting my partner’s feelings if I express some of my sexual needs. Could you help me with this?
Many people shy away from speaking directly to their partners in order to keep from hurting their feelings. I can help you get very clear about what you are wanting and needing from your partner, and then help you practice saying it. And of course we will work together to choose your words carefully.
3. How can I determine whether my problem is physical or emotional?
With any sexual issue, I would recommend that you get a full physical to rule out physical causes. Don’t forget to ask if any medications that you are taking could be responsible for your drop in desire, or difficulty achieving orgasms.
