Early Ejaculation is the most common complaint for men in sex therapy. A male client might tell me “I want to last longer during intercourse – I seem to only last a minute or so.” While I also see some men who think that they aren’t lasting long enough, when they are lasting in the average range of 5-8 minutes. Our culture (and probably porn) encourages us to think that “real men” last a very long time.
Early Ejaculation is also very, very treatable. It can take courage making an appointment with a Certified Sex Therapist, but most men are able to be helped to control their ejaculation. Sadly, the effects of EE on a couple are: decrease in sexual confidence and desire for both, increased anxiety about having sex, and then a tendency to avoid it completely. Both can be left with feelings of disappointment, and feelings of embarrassment, failure or just “missing out” on the sex they want.
The good news is that this issue can be overcome with a bit of work. I hope you won’t let embarrassment keep you from tackling this very frustrating problem.
