LOW LIBIDO OR SEX ADDICTION?
Have you ever wondered if your partner’s sexual desire bordered on addiction?
Do you think you feel a healthy level of desire, but not if you compare it to your partner’s libido?
While I am not a fan of the term “sex addiction,” I do believe that people can develop sexually compulsive
behaviors that can cause big problems in their relationships, and in their lives overall.
How do you tell if your partner might have some sexually compulsive behaviors?
Here are some signs that your partner may have a problem:
1. Spending a lot of time looking at porn – to the extent that it interferes with getting enough sleep, or functioning at work.
2. Putting more time and energy into porn, or other sexually oriented websites, etc. than you do with your relationship.
3. Having affairs over and over again.
4. Hiding your sexual behaviors because you are ashamed of them.
5. Telling yourself repeatedly that you will stop the behavior, and then doing it again.
6. Participating in risky types of sexual behavior – as in picking up strangers, or doing things that are illegal.
7. Needing more and more explicit or “kinky” porn or sex to feel satisfied.
8. Coercing your partner into doing sexual things they aren’t comfortable with – like going to swingers’ clubs, strip clubs, watching porn, or acting out fantasies.
9. Spending a lot of money on your sexual behaviors.
10. Your partner complains about your sexual behavior – saying it has put a barrier between you.
If you aren’t sure whether you or your partner may have a problem, call my office for a consultation. At times, a “low libido” not be the problem that needs addressing.
