While you might think that having intercourse for a long time would not be a problem, since it allows more time for the woman to climax, this is actually an issue that can cause (or worsen) a woman’s low libido. Delayed ejaculation is when a man either takes too long to ejaculate, or doesn’t at all. Most men ejaculate within 5-8 minutes of intercourse, while those with this problem can take 30-75 minutes. I’m not talking about time spent on foreplay, this is only intercourse.
Women whose partners go this long complain of soreness in their vaginas, of feeling they must be a “bad lover”, and often say they feel frustrated and a sense of failure after sex. They say it is awkward because sex doesn’t have a natural ending – with climax – and instead involves deciding when to stop trying.
Men with this issue may not see it as a problem since they are taught by our culture to try to be “studs” and think that means 45 minutes of thrusting with intercourse. Their partners are often very reluctant to bring this up, because they don’t want to hurt their feelings. The good news is that this can be worked upon with a good sex therapist if it is acknowledged.
So there you have another little-known cause of low libido in women.
