Boost Your Low Libido

For many couples, being too busy is part of the cause of their low libidos.  Not surprisingly, sometimes couples are also too busy to come in for counseling to help them boost their low libidos.   While being too busy can be an excuse for avoiding sex or therapy, it is also just plain difficult for some high-powered couples to get to my office at the same time on a regular basis. 

Here are some options that can minimize or replace the time in  my office.

***Buy my eBook – No Room For Sex:  How To Boost Your Low Libido.  You can start with the self-help approach by reading and doing the exercises, and talking about it with your spouse.  Some couples may not need to come in at all, but for those that do, they will be ahead by having done some work on their own.

***Join one of my Women’s Support Groups.  There are day and evening groups available – later than my latest couples appointments, and they meet only twice per month, so the time commitment is minimal.  The groups are an excellent way to practice talking about sex, to learn about specific aspects of sexuality, and the homework will be designed to push you ever so gently out of your comfort zone (and out of your sexual avoidance or boredom).  Don’t worry, I said gently.  If you aren’t sure about whether group is for you, check out the comments from women who have done a group with me, on the Testimonials page, or call me with your questions.

***Consider booking a longer session less frequently than once per week.  Some prefer to work this way even when they could get to my office, but it definitely offers flexibility.  I can send you home with more homework than I would ordinarily, and you can work through it at your own pace, and schedule again whenever you are ready.  One caveat, some couples need the consistency and accountability of  regular sessions in order to make steady progress.  I would help you determine if this would be a good approach for you. 

***Phone sessions are a good way to keep your progress momentum going even when one of you is out of town, or can’t take the time to leave the office at lunchtime and drive across town.    While some information is lost because I can’t see you, this can work well for some people.  (I am looking into a web cam, which would remove that barrier to feeling connected while working together).   Phone work is also an option for out-of towners,  who may never be able to come to my Dallas office.  I have worked successfully with people from other states using only phone sessions. 

***Women’s Workshops are also ideal for those who prefer a Saturday morning event.  The Discovering Your Sexual Self workshop can also be an excellent jumpstart for you.  Workshops are held in a class-like setting where you can be anonymous, and speak only if you wish to add something to the discussion.  The workshops tend to help women feel less alone with sexual concerns, and to feel more hopeful about being able to overcome them.  For a list of comments from women who have attended the workshops, see the Testimonials page.  The next workshop is Saturday September 19th, from 9am to noon.

***e Therapy, while not appropriate for all, may be an option if you travel extensively, or live out of town.  The work would be done via email.  One positive about working this way is that you have all I have said to you in writing, so that you can easily refer back to it over time.  I would want to make sure that it is a good choice for you based on a careful assessment of your needs.  This would also apply to phone sessions.

So there you have it – a panoply of options for you busy couples.