DATE NIGHT ANTICIPATION
If you’re like most couples that I see in my office, you haven’t had a night out together with just the two of you in months. I know it can be a challenge to fit a regular date night into your schedule that is already bursting at the seams, but date night can help boost a low libido.
Think about how much time, energy and effort you spent anticipating your next moments together when you were dating. You thought about what you would wear, and may have shopped for something new and special to put on for the occasion. You thought about your hair and makeup. You probably had a manicure, and I would bet that you took pains when getting ready to look your absolute best.
Why is this important? All of these are ways of looking forward to and positively anticipating your time together. It creates excitement, and emphasizes that time together is important. Anticipating having fun, talking together (about more than just the kids and household responsibilities), flirting, little touches that add spark – all can make date night a libido-increasing activity – even when you’ve been married for 20 years!
Couples today are burdened by too much stress and non-stop activities. Over time, your relationship can end up like a starving man – wasting away from the lack of nourishment. Try to move out of being too settled in! Dress up for each other, tell each other you look nice, invest some time and energy in your relationship. And most of all, anticipate your special time alone together.
If you’d like to read about other ways to keep a spark alive in your relationship, consider reading
Lauren’s eBook - No Room For Sex: How To Boost Your Low Libido.
