Young women in their 20′s often tell me they feel embarrassed because they have a sexual problem. They think that because they are young, they should be “swinging from the chandeliers” – sexually speaking.
They tell me they fear that having a low libido early in their marriages, or even with a long-term boyfriend seems like a very bad sign about what the future will bring.
So my clients are often relieved when they join a women’s support group, or attend my Discovering Your Sexual Self Workshop and find they are not the only participants who are not yet 30 years old.
Women today are subject to so much pressure – from every direction it seems. Perfectionism – trying to be the perfect Mom, Wife, Daughter, Corporate Ladder-Climber, and PTA President isn’t enough? Now women are feeling that they are somehow failing if their libido suffers – all because of an idea that being young necessarily involves being highly sexual!
Many of the women I work with are perfectionists – the type A doers who are task-oriented to the max.
They have trouble relaxing unless everything is “done” – but there is a big problem with this, because it is NEVER all done! This approach to life puts you on an endless treadmill of responsibility and can suck the joy right out of your life!
The good news is that you can take yourself off the treadmill by not taking on a sense of shame for having a low libido as a young woman. It happens! You are not alone, so give yourself a break from thinking this way, as well as a true break from your tasks and duties. You need to create some space for some sexual thoughts and energy to grow. I discuss this more fully in my new eBook called No Room For Sex: How To Boost Your Low Libido. Check it out, get some ideas about how to rev up your engine, and give yourself some time off.
You, and your partner will be glad that you did.
