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If you are like most women receiving a recommendation from your doctor that you see a counselor to help you with a sexual issue, your first response might be shock. You might prefer to work on this as a solely medical problem. So many women tell me that they wish there was a pill that could solve their sexual problem. But sexuality is complex - it involves not only your body, but your heart, thoughts and emotions as well. Additionally, having a sexual issue can bring down your self-esteem, and can be depressing in itself. So you may be getting the referral for the sexual issue itself, or for the “side effects” - the effects of the problem on your self-esteem or your marriage.
You may feel nervous about the thought of even calling about an appointment, much less walking in the door. Most of my clients tell me that they feel a tremendous sense of relief and hope when they leave my office after a first appointment. They tell me they feel understood, and that they have a sense that I will be able to help them conquer their problem. So even though it can feel embarrassing, or anxiety-provoking to call or come in, it is definitely worth it. Truly, the avoidance and fear about facing your issue is FAR worse than getting some specialized assistance to overcome it.
Knowing what to expect can help to ease your mind. When you come to my office, you will find a clipboard in the waiting room with paperwork for you to fill out. You will be the only person in the waiting room, as I do not share my suite with other therapists. When I am ready to see you, I will invite you into my office. We will go over your paperwork, and I will ask you about your concerns and take notes. I will use this information to target some areas to focus our work around. I will give you some homework to do to bring with you the next time you come in.* You are welcome to bring your spouse if that would make you feel more comfortable.
I thoroughly enjoy my work with couples on improving their sexual relationships. It is very rewarding to see the return of passion, the increase in sexual satisfaction, and stronger, closer relationships overall. There is no reason you shouldn’t be able to have a wonderful sex life if you can stare down your fear, take charge and begin the work. For most couples, the work is short-term, and they are very glad they did it.
*I can also work with you by phone if you live outside the Dallas area.
